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Song of Solomon

The Song of Solomon

The Bible tells us in 1 Kings 11:2-3 that Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines. "Solomon clave unto these in love. 3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines:" KJV In those days, it was legal to have servant ladies with which it was also legal for a man to have sex. This means that Solomon, the writer of this Song, had sexual experience available to him of 1000 women, at his beck and call, 24 - 7! Someone like this should be qualified to write a book about sex. Let's see what this man has to say:

A Commentary:by john roy bohlen & John 5:30

THE SONG OF SOLOMON

"1:1 The song of songs, which is Solomon's."

"2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine."

We recommend enthusiastically, all of Al and Joyce Penner's books about sex and marriage. One, which we shall recommend here, is The Gift of Sex. In their counseling, they recommend that every couple spend quality time each day, simply kissing.

"3 Because of the savour of thy good ointments thy name is as ointment poured forth, therefore do the virgins love thee. 4 Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee. 5 I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon. 6 Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me: my mother's children were angry with me; they made me the keeper of the vineyards; but mine own vineyard have I not kept."

We written a book called The Sexual Ministry, that we are recommending to every one who is married. We also recommend the book to any one who is sexually active, because we make it quite clear that if we are having sex with any one to whom we are not married, we are promised that we will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven. In this book, we tell people how to withstand temptation successfully, and how to be victorious in this area.

"7 Tell me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou makest thy flock to rest at noon: for why should I be as one that turneth aside by the flocks of thy companions? 8 If thou know not, O thou fairest among women, go thy way forth by the footsteps of the flock, and feed thy kids beside the shepherds' tents. 9 I have compared thee, O my love, to a company of horses in Pharaoh's chariots."

WE are recommending that you get a notebook and draw a large but simple diagram of a man's body, and, another, of a woman's body. As you read the Song of Solomon, please try to keep track of what this Book says about what.

"10 Thy cheeks are comely with rows of jewels, thy neck with chains of gold. 11 We will make thee borders of gold with studs of silver."

Aren't cheeks lovely?! Isn't the neck beautiful?! These both love to be kissed and caressed and tickled and stroked and licked.

12 While the king sitteth at his table, my spikenard sendeth forth the smell thereof."

To be a great lover, one should pay attention to the sense of smell. This sense of smell can be trained to appreciate the natural odors of sex, and one should be open to learn all the fragrances of the sexual process. These smells are used mightily and often in the animal kingdom. Perfumes, soaps, incense, candles and cologne, yes, but there is nothing like the fragrance of a man or a woman who is sexually aroused. The body fluids produced in each case, should become deeply appreciated by both the husband and the wife. But because so many people have been brainwashed to think of sex as being dirty, too many people have also allowed themselves to become negatively conditioned to the smells of sexual activity.

"13 A bundle of myrrh is my wellbeloved unto me; he shall lie all night betwixt my breasts."

The fragrance of myrrh is very lovely, and this fragrance is compared to how the husband smells when sexually aroused.

One of the most enjoyable things for couples, is for them to fall asleep, still joined. Here again, too often, because of snoring, because of wrong thinking, either the husband or the wife, too quickly turn away from each other, following the orgasm of one or the other. It is a well known fact that a woman can be fully capable of having as many orgasms as she wishes. If the love making process stops too quickly, this pleasure may not be available to her. Furthermore, the husband might possibly obtain another erection if foreplay continues. This additional pleasuring requires that sexual activity be made a priority. The greatest pleasure for the man, can and should be his ability to enable his wife to have as many orgasms as she likes. The Bible commands the husband to love his wife as much as he loves his own flesh. Here is a grand opportunity for him to learn to appreciate the privilege of giving his wife pleasure. After the man has an orgasm, his next erection can sometimes be sustained almost indefinitely.

"14 My beloved is unto me as a cluster of camphire in the vineyards of En-gedi. 15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes. 16 Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. 17 The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir."

Pay attention here, and, throughout, to the word, "vineyards", as to what is meant and to what is done, in and to the vineyards. The man and the wife are to be pleasant to each other. They are to compliment and brag on each other. They are to encourage each other, without sex being the hook, or the motive. Yet, compliments and conversation are encouraged in the love making process. This includes conversation that is sexual in content. Sex talk is not forbidden in the sexual adventuring between the husband and wife. God intended that sexual words be stimulating, exciting, inspiring, motivating.

Song of Solomon 2

"2:1 I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.

2 As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.

3 As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons."

We encourage you to keep track of the word "lily" and "lilies", as well as the words "fruit", "apple", "garden", "pomegranates" and "trees"."

I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste."

On your diagram of the man, where would you guess is "under his shadow"? What would you guess is meant by, "his fruit was sweet to my taste"? Oral sex is never forbidden or discouraged anywhere in the Bible. There is not the slightest hint, inference, or suggestion, that oral sex is wrong. It is impossible to find, any place in the Bible, where the husband or the wife are commanded "Thou must kiss thy spouse, only above the chin, and below the shin!!!" God intended the mouth and the lips and the nose and every part of our body to be used in the lovemaking and love giving process. One of the problems with the Song of Solomon is that it has been made into theory, philosophy, and theology, to the place where Christians simply do not get the point that this Book can be a fantastic sex manual and guide for the husband and the wife. This Book was written by a man who could legally have sex, any time he wanted, with one thousand women!

"4 He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. 5 Stay me with flagons, comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love".

Here, the idea of tasting and eating is associated with sex. Drinking fluid is mentioned, along with eating fruit. Love sick here, is associated with sexual arousal, and the fruit talked about is his penis, testicles, and other body parts. Eating and drinking here, is encouraged. Learning to enjoy the taste, texture and fragrance are also included.

"6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.

All kinds of embracing are encouraged here. The husband and the wife are to have free access to each other's bodies, as is discussed in 1 Corinthians, chapter 7. Verse 3 "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife." In other words, the husband is to allow and encourage his wife to have sex with him as often, and for as long as she wishes. The opposite is also true. Here, it is clear: ALL of the husband's body belongs to the wife to do with as she wishes. The opposite is also true. In this sexual position, they have free access to each other's body. The Bible here says that the man is her sex toy, and the woman is the sex toy of the man, for each of them to enjoy and play with, as they wish!

7 I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please."

Most couples, especially Christian couples do not make sex a priority. They do not set aside quality time dedicated to sex. Sex is not a priority in most Christian homes. They allow interruptions at the drop of a hat, by neighbors, children, pets, friends, and the TELEPHONE!!! Here, in this Song, the wife lays down the law: NO INTERRUPTIONS, until we are through enjoying our sexual adventures together!!! This is how determined we need to be. Sleep is another neglected priority. We need to have those times set aside in our lives, on a weekly basis, when we have at least one opportunity to sleep as long as our body requests. Fatigue and stress can interfere with all of the rest of life's activities. This is the reason why the Lord decreed the Sabbath, not just for the purpose of going to church, but for lovemaking and for rest! Sunday, for many Christians, can end up being the busiest day of the week. This day of rest, and sexual enjoyment does not have to be Sunday, but there should be a specific time and day set aside for rest, and enjoyment of each other.

"8 The voice of my beloved! Behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills!"

Look at the enthusiasm here! What are the ‘mountains', and what are the ‘hills'?! Do you know what ‘mons veneris' means? It means the hill or mountain of the pubic mound! The "Grand Tetons" in Colorado, means, "The Great Big Breasts"! The mountains and hills of the wife, are to be lavishly enjoyed. The Bible says, in Prov 5:15-20: "15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. 16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.

17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.

18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?"

Notice the reference here to copious fluids and drinking, to the extent of fountains and rivers. Why be ravished with a stranger? The recommendation is that the husband is to be satisfyingly "ravished" with and be to embrace the breasts of his own wife - AT ALL TIMES!!!

DON'T DEFRAUD EACH OTHER!!!

Notice 1 Corinthians 7 again: "5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." Please take special notice of the command, "Do not defraud each other!" What this means is that the husband is to give sexual ministry to his wife, any time she wants it. It also means that the wife is to minister sexually to her husband, any time he wants it!

ALL HE EVER THINKS ABOUT!

Some years ago, my wife and I were counseling a young married couple. That wife complained that all her husband ever thought about was sex. I asked her that if she would offer to have sex with her husband, any time he would want to have sex, how often would that be. Kind of embarrassed, she laughed and said, "Oh, about every 5 minutes!" Then I asked her, that in the 9 years she had been married, how often had they ever had sex 3 times in one day. She said "Never". Then I asked her, "How many times in your 9 years of marriage, have you ever had sex twice in one day?" She said, "Oh, maybe about 5 or 6 times." I gave them this homework assignment: I told her, "This week, your home work assignment is for you to have sex, 3 times every day." They accepted the assignment. The next week, I got this report from them: The first day, they had sex 3 times in one day. The second day, the husband was too pooped to pop. The third day, the husband was too tired to perform. The reason all he ever thought about was sex, was because she had been sexually starving him. She discovered, much to her surprise, that her husband was much more balanced when she was willing to have intercourse with him, any time he wanted.

Here is a story that should be told:

PEACHES ‘N CREAM!

Once upon a time, there was a princess that really looooooved peaches. So, when it came time to choose a husband, she chose one who possessed peaches. She made him sign a contract that when they were married that she would be fed plenty of peaches. He promised before God and these witnesses that he would give his wife all of the peaches she could possibly want. This was not at all unusual because there was a law on the books that commanded a husband who owned peaches to give his wife all of the peaches she could possibly want.

It just so happened that although the husband was really rich in peaches, he was able to acquire an exclusive monopoly on peaches so that he was the only source of peaches in the land. He had fresh peaches, dried peaches, canned peaches, peach pie, peach ice cream, peach nectar, peach preserves, juice, jams and jellies. He had so many peaches he hardly knew what to do with them all. But after the marriage, for some strange reason, this husband starved his wife from peaches. He was very cruel to her, and a liar, in that though he had promised her peaches, now he starved her from peaches, and would only give them to her when he was in the mood, which was not very often. She was really starved for peaches, really hungry. His desire for peaches was not nearly a great as hers, and so, he would only give her peaches occasionally. Besides, the giving of peaches to her required 10 minutes to 35 minutes, and he was very busy, with many important agendas.

She begged, and whined, cajoled and served, hoping to be given some peaches. She threatened, and pleaded and kept a right heart attitude, but none of this was able to convince her husband to give her anything but starvation rations of peaches. This situation continued until the princess became old, and then she died.

So is everyone who refuses or is unwilling to have sex with, or sexually defrauds his or her spouse.

1 Cor 7:2 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." (KJV)

1 Cor 7:2 "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, (this is the reason, the purpose, for marriage - a high libido, a strong sexual appetite, sexual desire, but, God says that this desire is ONLY to be fulfilled by a spouse, and THIS IS THE REASON GIVEN, FOR MARRIAGE!!!), let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband (the woman's libido, or sexual appetite, can be and often is stronger than her husband). 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: (Here, the husband is commanded to minister sexually to his wife, any and every time she desires it!), and likewise also the wife unto the husband. (any and every time he desires it!) 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: (in other words, the husband OWNS the sexual parts of the wife, and she has no right to withhold herself from him) and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. (in other words, the wife OWNS the sexual parts of the husband, and he has no right to withhold himself from her). 5 Defraud ye not one the other, (this means that sex should happen EVERY time either the husband wants it, and/or every time the wife wants it, whether or not it is convenient to the other, or whether the other is "in the mood".) except it be with (mutual) consent for a (short) time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; (and NOT for any other reason, not for birth control, not for a menstrual period, not for inconvenience, selfishness, manipulation, lack of time, etc.) and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency (a person, man or woman, can be strongly tempted, if there is not a regular sexual outlet within the marriage. There is no excuse for sin, but a spouse who will not minister to his or her spouse, every time it is requested, is subjecting the spouse to strong temptation. To keep from falling, the spouse may have to spend a lot of time, effort and energy battling the temptation.

In the world of pornography, it is considered ideal for someone to have another to be sexually available at all times. But, this is the beginning standard of any Christian marriage, that the spouse be available sexually - always. Here, the husband and the wife are commanded to never withhold themselves sexually, from each other.

Prov 3:27 "Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it. 28 Say not unto thy neighbour, ‘Go, and come again, and to morrow I will give'; when thou hast it by thee. 29 Devise not evil against thy neighbour, seeing he dwelleth securely by thee. 30 Strive not with a man without cause, if he have done thee no harm." (KJV) The "neighbour" in this case is your own spouse!!!

Remember: You are the ONLY person in the world, or in all of history, that is allowed by God to minister to your mate, sexually. Every other household function may be legitimately hired done by anyone else, but not the sexual function. This means that your spouse is TOTALLY at your mercy, that if you do not minister sexually to him/her, that your mate will suffer accordingly. Please see our book, The Sexual Ministry, if you are sexually active, or if you are counseling those who are.

If you have further questions about this subject, or if you need counseling, please feel free to call on us.

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"9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: behold, he standeth behind our wall, he looketh forth at the windows, shewing himself through the lattice. 10 My beloved spake, and said unto me, ‘Rise up, my love, my fair one, and come away. 11 For, lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone; 12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing of birds is come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land; 13 The fig tree putteth forth her green figs, and the vines with the tender grape give a good smell. Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away. 14 O my dove, that art in the clefts of the rock, in the secret places of the stairs, let me see thy countenance, let me hear thy voice; for sweet is thy voice, and thy countenance is comely. 15 Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes.' "

"16 My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies. 17 Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be thou like a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of Bether."

What does "feeding" mean? It means feeding. As you are keeping track of your diagram of the man's body and of the woman's body, notice what this Song has to say about lilies. Remember what this Song has to say about "mountains". Here is a reference to lilies, from Chapter 7:1 "How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince's daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman. 2 Thy navel is like a round goblet, which wanteth not liquor: thy belly is like an heap of wheat set about with lilies. 3 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins." Here, Solomon, with his 1000 constantly available sexual partners, goes, on the woman's body, from the feet, to the thighs, to the navel, the belly "set about with lilies". Then, he goes on to describe her breasts. In this whole area, what on her body could possibly be described as "lilies"? Then, make the connection, "He feeds among the lilies"!! A husband does not need to have an erection in order to give exquisite pleasure to his wife. All he and she need to allow for him to do is for him to "feed among the lilies", in that area of her body between her breasts and her thighs.

Song of Solomon 3

"3:1 By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not. 2 I will rise now, and go about the city in the streets, and in the broad ways I will seek him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not. 3 The watchmen that go about the city found me: to whom I said, ‘Saw ye him whom my soul loveth?' 4 It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother's house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me. 5 I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please."

Once again, the woman is insisting that priority time be taken for sexual intimacy with her husband.

"6 Who is this that cometh out of the wilderness like pillars of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and frankincense, with all powders of the merchant? 7 Behold his bed, which is Solomon's; threescore valiant men are about it, of the valiant of Israel. 8 They all hold swords, being expert in war: every man hath his sword upon his thigh because of fear in the night. 9 King Solomon made himself a chariot of the wood of Lebanon. 10 He made the pillars thereof of silver, the bottom thereof of gold, the covering of it of purple, the midst thereof being paved with love, for the daughters of Jerusalem. 11 Go forth, O ye daughters of Zion, and behold king Solomon with the crown wherewith his mother crowned him in the day of his espousals, and in the day of the gladness of his heart."

Song of Solomon 4"

4:1 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from mount Gilead. 2 Thy teeth are like a flock of sheep that are even shorn, which came up from the washing; whereof every one bear twins, and none is barren among them. 3 Thy lips are like a thread of scarlet, and thy speech is comely: thy temples are like a piece of a pomegranate within thy locks. 4 Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men."

"5 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies." Once again, we have special attention being paid to the breasts, with an additional reference to "feeding among the lilies"! Feeding among the lilies must be really important! Where in this area, is there anything like "lilies"?! This referring to "lilies" below the breasts, in the area of the belly and the thighs, clearly refers to the woman's pubic hair and genitals, where the man is to feed. To the pure, all things are pure. The man and the woman are to keep their genitals cleaner than their hands

"6 Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, I will get me to the mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense."

Here we have a romantic encounter that lasts all night long, including the hills and swells and bumps and curves and lilies of her body.

"7 Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee. 8 Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse, with me from Lebanon: look from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards."

Here, we have special reference to mountains, hills, mountains, holes and mountains. Look at the diagram of the woman's body and consider the mountains and the holes.

"9 Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck. 10 How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices! 11 Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon. 12 A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. 13 Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, 14 Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: 15 A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon. 16 Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out."

Here, the body is compared with a garden of delights, with fragrances and tastes and with fluids that are to be drunk. Here, we also find the kind of kissing that acknowledges what seems like honey and milk, under her tongue. Who says that "French kissing" may not be really fun!

"Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits."

"Come", "into" the garden of her body. Eat, refers hear, to eating, and pleasant fruits refers to him using his mouth and taste buds on various parts of her body.

Song of Solomon 5

"5:1 I am come into my garden, my sister, my spouse: I have gathered my myrrh with my spice; I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey; I have drunk my wine with my milk: eat, O friends; drink, yea, drink abundantly, O beloved."

Remember that the ‘garden" is a reference to her body. Coming into her body is indicated. The eating and drinking her of copious fluids is part of the picture, here. The encouragement to the "friends" is an encouragement for other husbands and wives to behave and think and feel free to adventure in the same manner with their spouse, as does Solomon with his lover.

"2 I sleep, but my heart waketh: it is the voice of my beloved that knocketh, saying, ‘Open to me, my sister, my love, my dove, my undefiled: for my head is filled with dew, and my locks with the drops of the night.' "

From her standpoint, sex, at this time, is inconvenient. The husband is begging for sex with her, and she is tired. He is aroused sexually. She is too tired. She makes more excuses. I once saw a calendar that had an excuse from her, for every day of the month. The calendar read something like this: Day one: "I'm too tired!" Day 2: "I'm too busy, now, Dear," Day 3 "I've got my period." Day 4: Same as day 3. Day 5: Same as day 4. Day 6: Same as day 5. Day 7: "Is this all you ever think about?" Day 8: "You are over sexed." Day 9; "Oh no. Not again!" Day 10: "I've got a headache." Day 11: "I'm not in the mood." Day 12: "Is this the only reason you married me?" Day 13. "You have not been making enough money." Day 14: "Well, o.k., if I have to, but hurry up, let's get it over with." Day 15: "I might get pregnant." Day 16: "The children might hear." Day 17: "I have many chores for you to do around the house." Day 18: "I just put clean sheets on the bed." Day 19: "What? Have you been looking at other women?" Day 20: "I don't want to mess up my hair." Day 21: "How about tomorrow?" Day 22: "I just took a bath." Day 23: "I'm too dirty." Day 24: "I cannot imagine the Virgin Mary wanting to do this!" Day 25: The phone rang. Day 26: "The door bell rang." 27. "How are we going to pay the bills?" 28: "I'm depressed" 29: "I'm starting to age." 30: "I'm not as pretty as I used to be." 31: "It's too boring." And, here are two more excuses for her to defraud her husband:

"3 I have put off my coat; how shall I put it on? I have washed my feet; how shall I defile them?"

"4 My beloved put in his hand by the hole of the door, and my bowels were moved for him."

He fondles her genitals, and she responds with her sexual arousal.

"5 I rose up to open to my beloved; and my hands dropped with myrrh, and my fingers with sweet smelling myrrh, upon the handles of the lock."

She opens up to him sexually, and responds by fondling him.

"6 I opened to my beloved; but my beloved had withdrawn himself, and was gone: my soul failed when he spake: I sought him, but I could not find him; I called him, but he gave me no answer. 7 The watchmen that went about the city found me, they smote me, they wounded me; the keepers of the walls took away my veil from me."

"8 I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, if ye find my beloved, that ye tell him, that I am sick of love."

"9 What is thy beloved more than another beloved, O thou fairest among women? What is thy beloved more than another beloved, that thou dost so charge us? 10 My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand."

"11 His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. 12 His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. 13 His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. 14 His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. 15 His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. 16 His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem."

"This is my friend!" When all else fails, be friendly! Sometimes I will ask a couple who are obviously married: "Is this your friend?" Sometimes they will reply, "No, this is my wife!" (or husband, as the case may be.)

Song of Solomon 6

"6:1 Whither is thy beloved gone, O thou fairest among women? Whither is thy beloved turned aside? That we may seek him with thee. 2 My beloved is gone down into his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. 3 I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies."

Keeping your geography straight? The husband "goes down" on her, and feeds in the gardens, gathers lilies, feeds among the lilies! Remember in the former explanation, "Her belly is surrounded by lilies!" is mentioned in the same verses where his is describing her belly, thighs, lilies, breasts. What are the lilies? This is to him, the very sweetest part of her, and he is freely feeding there, and she loves it! There is nothing dirty or forbidden or unclean about her lilies! Nor are you as a husband or wife to consider your own lilies to be unclean. You as a husband or wife must not fail to appreciate the taste or fragrance or pleasure and enjoyment to be derived from the husband to go down and feed among her lilies! This is talking about the man doing oral sex on the woman, licking and kissing, smelling, tasting, enjoying her genitals!

"4 Thou art beautiful, O my love, as Tirzah, comely as Jerusalem, terrible as an army with banners. 5 Turn away thine eyes from me, for they have overcome me: thy hair is as a flock of goats that appear from Gilead."

The sexual pleasure is so great as to be described as being almost unbearably exquisite!

"6 Thy teeth are as a flock of sheep which go up from the washing, whereof every one beareth twins, and there is not one barren among them. 7 As a piece of a pomegranate are thy temples within thy locks. 8 There are threescore queens, and fourscore concubines, and virgins without number. 9 My dove, my undefiled is but one; she is the only one of her mother, she is the choice one of her that bare her. The daughters saw her, and blessed her; yea, the queens and the concubines, and they praised her. 10 Who is she that looketh forth as the morning, fair as the moon, clear as the sun, and terrible as an army with banners?"

In this case, compliments, bragging on each other, make a difference. The husband and wife should brag on each other to others, an to each other, as a life-style

"11 I went down into the garden of nuts to see the fruits of the valley, and to see whether the vine flourished, and the pomegranates budded."

Are you paying attention to every reference of "a garden"? Each mention of "garden" speaks to the playing ground of each other's body. Each mention of "fruit", of "nuts', of "pomegranates", of "buds", etc., speaks of sexual parts of each other's body. "Going down", speaks of going down, in this case, for some very close inspection and enjoyment!

"12 Or ever I was aware, my soul made me like the chariots of Amminadib. 13 Return, return, O Shulamite; return, return, that we may look upon thee. What will ye see in the Shulamite? As it were the company of two armies."

Song of Solomon 7

"7:1 How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince's daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman."

Isn't God great, the way He has created the human body?!! I myself am on social security, and I still find my wife's body to be absolutely exciting and stimulating to me. The Bible commands us to rejoice with the wife of thy youth, and to not put her away in her old age. Sarah and Abraham, over 90, still enjoyed sex.

2 Thy navel is like a round goblet, which wanteth not liquor: thy belly is like an heap of wheat set about with lilies.

Here is liquid to be drunk and tasted and enjoyed and smelled, associated with her belly, immediately shifting again to lilies that are connected to her belly and associated with her fluids. These are gloriously celebrated in the Bible!

"3 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins."

He is joyfully celebrating and bragging on her breasts! The Bible says, "Let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished ALWAYS with her love!!!" But what if she has had breast cancer and, possibly, amputation? Even then, there can be responsive nerve endings in the area, and they can rejoice together at what they once had together! I also believe that the Day is here when the Lord can actually bring a creative restoration to lost body parts!

"4 Thy neck is as a tower of ivory; thine eyes like the fishpools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bath-rabbim: thy nose is as the tower of Lebanon which looketh toward Damascus. 5 Thine head upon thee is like Carmel, and the hair of thine head like purple; the king is held in the galleries."

Can there ever be too much compliments, bragging and praise of each other? Here, it continues, it is frequent, enthusiastic, lasting.

"6 How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!"

Even as we are created to delight in God, and to enjoy Him, the husband and the wife are created for each other's enjoyment, pleasure and delight!

"7 This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes."

Here is the reference to gardens, and fruit, again.

"8 I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples; 9 And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak."

Now, the husband is "going up" instead of going down. The kissing and tasting here, gets really impassioned, doesn't it?!

"10 I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me."

Here, strong sexual desire between the husband and wife are celebrated and appreciated.

"11 Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. 12 Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves."

Here is more activity in her and in his "garden of delights"! Here is the reference to fluids in the garden, to fruits, and to the sweet exchange of mutual giving and receiving of sexual pleasure.

"13 The mandrakes give a smell, and at our gates are all manner of pleasant fruits, new and old, which I have laid up for thee, O my beloved."

Here is every reference in the Bible to mandrakes:

Genesis 30:14 "And Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest, and found mandrakes in the field, and brought them unto his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, ‘Give me, I pray thee, of thy son's mandrakes.' 15 And she said unto her, ‘Is it a small matter that thou hast taken my husband? And wouldest thou take away my son's mandrakes also?' And Rachel said, ‘Therefore he shall lie (have sex) with thee to night for thy son's mandrakes.' 16 And Jacob came out of the field in the evening, and Leah went out to meet him, and said, ‘Thou must come in (have sex) unto me; for surely I have hired thee (to have sex with me) with my son's mandrakes. And he lay (had sex) with her that night."

In those days, the plant called "mandrakes" was considered an aphrodisiac, or a substance that stimulates sexual pleasure, kind of an herbal stimulant similar to medicines or drugs like Viagra., or supplementation of testosterone for either the man or the woman.

In these three verses of the Bible, intercourse is freely planned and discussed, three or four times, between the husband and his wife. The time for intercourse was planned ahead of time between them, although spontaneity is also allowed!

Song of Solomon 8"

8:1 O that thou wert as my brother, that sucked the breasts of my mother! when I should find thee without, I would kiss thee; yea, I should not be despised."

In some cultures and homes, sexual aggressiveness on the part of the wife is discouraged. Here, and elsewhere in the Bible, including 1 Corinthians 7, sexual aggressiveness on the part of the woman is encouraged and to be expected!

2 I would lead thee, and bring thee into my mother's house, who would instruct me: I would cause thee to drink of spiced wine of the juice of my pomegranate.

Here, the Bible give a key to how the Bride, the wife is to be educated and trained sexually. The New Testament part of the Bible, puts it this way: Titus 2:3 "The aged women likewise, that they be . . teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children."

Here, and in this verse from the Song, a major key to the Bride's training, or the wife's training as to how to be the greatest lover in the world, the most highly skilled sexual partner in the world. Why should prostitutes be the only ones with skill, creativity, spontaneity, willingness, variety??? Among the skills expected and praised in a housewife, are cooking, sewing, housekeeping, etc. But why does our culture legislate against TRAINING a woman to be a great lover when she comes to the marriage bed??? The way it is now, we simply expect that the woman will automatically know all she needs to know, simply by the act of becoming married. If all the preacher does is to pronounce them "husband and wife" but has not seen to it that the husband and the wife are TRAINED to be sexually skilled, then something is tragically wrong. Here's how God expects the woman to become highly skilled in her love making: There are to be mature and responsible women who themselves are highly trained and skilled in their own sexuality within marriage, women who are not legalistic or hung up or restrained, who can teach and train the less mature woman how to become highly trained and skilled in her own sexual ministry to her husband. The wife is to learn how to be aggressive and creative, with variety, and skill, vision and enthusiasm for her unique ministry to her husband. The husband, likewise can learn from her, and from mature mentors and shepherds who can train and teach him to be a skilled and considerate servant hearted lover to his wife.

"3 His left hand should be under my head, and his right hand should embrace me."

Here is a situation where the wife is free to TELL her husband what feels good to her, and he should be willing and eager to learn from her, without feeling threatened or inferior.

"4 I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, until he please."

Once again, Love Making and sex is to be planned and to be made a priority!!! Sex is not to be neglected, not to be a lesser priority, not to be forgotten. There are times to be set aside when NO BODY, NO ONE is to interrupt or disturb. Sex between couples should be a major priority, and seen as extremely important, not a sometimes side issue.

"5 Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved? I raised thee up under the apple tree: there thy mother brought thee forth: there she brought thee forth that bare thee. 6 Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame."

Under no circumstances is mental or physical adultery or fornication to be experienced. Please see our book, The Sexual Ministry, for detailed information on why and how to avoid immorality and its consequences. Words cannot adequately express the HELL that results from immorality! That is the purpose of marriage - sexual adventuring with out guilt, punishments, shame, broken homes, unwanted pregnancy, and venereal disease.

"7 Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned. 8 We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for? 9 If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if she be a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar. 10 I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour."

A woman is to be proud of her breasts, and is to save them for her husband lover.

"11 Solomon had a vineyard at Baal-hamon; he let out the vineyard unto keepers; every one for the fruit thereof was to bring a thousand pieces of silver. 12 My vineyard, which is mine, is before me: thou, O Solomon, must have a thousand, and those that keep the fruit thereof two hundred. 13 Thou that dwellest in the gardens, the companions hearken to thy voice: cause me to hear it."

"14 Make haste, my beloved, and be thou like to a roe or to a young hart upon the mountains of spices."

The Song of Songs closes here with a hot, aggressive enthusiastic invitation to the spouse lover to happy sexual adventuring!!! The signal bell sounds, "Come, and get it!!!" She says to him. He says to her: "Let's cuddle!"

The story is told of a bachelor and a single woman, each of which owned a pet parrot. The man's parrot would say, over and over, "Let's pray. Let's pray." The woman's parrot would say, over and over, "Let's cuddle! Let's cuddle!" One day the man and woman decided to get together, along with their parrots. When they did, the male parrot said, "Let's pray. Let's pray." The female parrot then said, "Let's cuddle! Let's cuddle!" Then the male parrot said, "Praise God!! My prayers have been answered!!"

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